I am blogging by myself for now as Sheri had a death in her family today.
For quite some time her in-laws have been living with them at their home -- the "oldies" as Sheri fondly refers to them. While it was not the best of living situations, I don't think Sheri was prepared for what happened.
Suddenly, the mother-in-law became ill with pneumonia and landed in the hospital. Then the father-in-law had to go into temporary assisted living as Sheri and Dan could no longer physically care for him. The mother-in-law then gradually went down hill and was placed in hospice this past weekend. Today she died. Just like that.
All of my closest friends are in the midst of varying stages of elder care. It's so very hard. It's like becoming a mother to your own mother and father. I experienced a bit of it last year but luckily just hit the tip of the iceburg. I think about it every day. My heart jumps when I see my parent's phone number on caller ID at night -- wondering if something has happened.
Our friend P. lost her mother-in-law a few weeks ago. Our friend M. lost her father-in-law this weekend. Our friend C. has a 90-something mother who will outlive us all. My friend S. has a 90-something mother who has had numerous bouts with "death" yet is still alive in a nursing home.
It's such a reality check. How do we prepare ourselves for this task and dealing with the caring of, death and dying of our parents?