Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Saying Yes to Life's Experiences

Abby says:
When I get really busy with work, I get writer's block, and the creative juices just don't flow. So, I asked a friend to give me a topic for our blog. Here it is. "Saying Yes More Often to Participating in Life's Experiences". I thought this was great. We're all busy occupied with our daily lives, but sometimes it's important to regroup and think about things we might be missing out on. Like the saying goes, "life's too short" -- and this really is true, so I guess I need to think more about living each day as though it could be the last.

This is sort of like our own "Bucket List". I'm officially adopting this today. Here are my top 5.

* Connect with people from my past: I have avidly pursued this over the last month thanks to a great friend from my past who recently reconnected with me. Because of this, I have made contact with people I cared a lot about but lost touch (some via online, some via phone and some in person). Including my sister -- who recently moved back to Indianapolis where I live. It's been a great experience. Most importantly, I want to stay in touch with these people for good.

* Live in another city: I hope to accomplish this someday, somehow. Even if it means commuting somewhere different on a regular basis for my work. My favorite cities are New York, Phoenix and Miami, but I'd be just as happy somewhere in California or on a ranch out West in the middle of nowhere with a bunch of cattle.

* Keep an open mind: While I'm the first to promote change in work scenarios, I often tend to stay in a rut when it comes to my personal life. It's easier. You don't have to try hard. You get into a comfortable routine. I think keeping an open mind and being more flexible may help me to get out and see what else life has to offer.

* Let my guard down: My family, friends and clients chuckle at me because they know I am a fairly guarded person. Ok, I get it. I need to put myself out there more. I think the last time someone saw me publicly emotional was when a family member was hospitalized a couple years ago. (I hide it very well). A client said it was readily visible that I was ruffled and commented that while the circumstances were unfortunate it was good to see that side of me actually existed.

* Get out of my comfort zone: Someone recently told me that if you're not out of your comfort zone, you're truly missing out. I thought this was well put. It's easy to do the same old thing day after day and create a safety net, thus potentially missing out on lots of exciting things. I think this advice holds true for all of life's experiences, as well as love, family and career.

Sheri says:
I like going second on this one. Abby’s list amazes me. My list is similar, but different enough:

Treasure Friendships. I have also reconnected with an old friend but for the most part, I’m struggling to keep up with the ones I have.

Rediscover the City I Live in. I love to travel but when I’m home, I forget to look around. I forget that there are places to go and things to do that don’t make my normal routine. I have had a few chances to live in other cities but life circumstances did not allow it.

Closing My Mind. Debates and various exchanges of information are powerful. I listen carefully and I like to form my own opinion. I have now lived enough decades that on a few subjects, my opinion is done. It is solid. It is part of my core character.

Be a Little More Guarded. Abby is known for her ability to keep everything close to the vest. I do not have this quality. I am a "Splat, what do you think of that?" kind of person.

Get Out of My Comfort Zone. Need to do it. Got to do it. Scared stiff. That’s why it’s called “comfort.”

Accept Myself. My mind is not quite as adept as a 25-year old. I feel behind in technology. But I need to remind myself that I am keeping up. On a day-to-day basis, I take care of a lot of people and things on the agenda.

Walk Away. I have tentacles. I tend to glom onto things/people and hang on for dear life. If a conversation takes a nose dive, I must learn to walk away. If a relationship turns toxic, I must walk away.